About Me

Growing up, I was the "good kid”—the perfectionist, the rule-follower. I tried so very hard to follow every rule thinking this was how I would earn acceptance, approval, belonging, and love. I never could quite measure up, but that didn't stop me from trying.

In my early thirties, I began to question my whole life from my long-held religious beliefs to my relationships to this way of living by a rulebook filled with everyone else’s rules. I quickly realized that I did not want to live my life this way! Not only was I utterly disconnected from my authentic self, I had no idea who she was! I also had no real community. How could I when none of them knew the real me?

I had lived a half-life lead by obligation, duty, fear of failure, and avoidance of shame until I learned. to break. the rules.

And that brings me to why I’ve created this space. This is meant to be a safe space for recovering rule-followers like you and me. It’s a space to reflect, connect, and ask hard questions without judgment. It’s a space we can practice curiosity about what rules and mindsets, in our own lives, are creating disconnection within ourselves and with others. What rules are we mindlessly following that are actively stunting our growth and keeping us stuck?

If you’re a rule-follower wondering how to break free from shame spirals and that feeling of never being able to measure up, this space is for you! You are welcome here. Every piece of you and everything you bring with you. But we’re not meant to carry all that we carry. I invite you to join me in ditching your Rulebook so you can connect deeply and grow freely.

Feel free to dip your toes in here on my website. When you’re ready to connect with me and other recovering rule-followers more, you can subscribe to my newsletter over on Substack called Rule-Breaking News. I look forward to connecting with you there!

Thanks for visiting my website and for letting me be a small part of your journey.

Rest easy, Rule-breaker. You’ve got this.